drawing with your children
A question from Michelle at Mama Chronicles:
Have you ever had trouble with [your children] feeling inferior to you when you draw alongside them?
I have had a difficult time writing a succinct response to your excellent question.
This is my third attempt to answer without producing a novella.
Briefly...
Draw with your children, and share both your skill and your enthusiasm. Just as it's perfectly fine to learn alongside your children, it's also perfectly fine to share your talents with them. It's no different than reading, cooking, woodworking, gardening — do the things you love to do with your kids. What better gift could you give them?
You may not be more skilled than your children (I'm not!) — that's okay, too! Learn alongside them, and let them share your enthusiasm and your interest. You are modeling having a great attitude about tackling something challenging. You are modeling that not everything worth doing comes easily.
We do lots of things better than our children — drive, for instance. ;^) They respect our skills and they want to be like us. With that power comes great responsibility. (Quoting Spiderman!)
Now, tomorrow I'll post about some things you can say to your child if they start comparing their work to others or disparaging their own abilities. And this post isn't a mile long, so — whew!



Reader Comments (11)
Thank you for your comment!
J, I think this is one of those situations where the more you do it, the better it works. Getting your children used to working with you side by side, as equals.
I promise I'm working my way toward discussing imitation/copying!
I recently received a great comment on my blog about children comparing their work. Reader Nicole has this to suggest: take out lots of children's books and begin a discussion about how each artist has their own individual illustrative style. The children are reminded of the broad range of work. I liked that solution very much.
I'm very much looking forward to your insights.
Happy weekend!
- Molly I.
michelle, i understand what you are saying - my boys are 8 and 11 and i think we've passed that phase! ;^)
tracey, you are beating me to the punch. :^) that is exactly what i say, both about myself and about older children/siblings. hopefully i'll put that post up later today! thanks for your great comment!
Kidding. Kidding everyone. Great topic. And definitely an issue with my little determined, perfectionista daughter.
thank you, sarah! it was ph.d. length at one point! ;^)